As I promised, here´s my feelings after having watched the Debate show in TV yesterday:
So, about the whole Debate thing with the newly become mother who have been given the nice job to be the big host when we arrange the big FINALS in Eurovision song contest in may.
First of all, she is one of our biggest comedians in Sweden and she´s been hosting the show before, so she´s a good choice and she was the productions first choice and she got the question already in the summer, when she still was pregnant. Still, she didn´t want to sign the deal until the baby was out and she came december 21st. But she never hesitated, she says, to take the job.
And most of the people´s voices are supporting her, but then, of course there are "some" who are living in old stereotypes and it just makes me so tired...
One of them is a journalist in our biggest newspaper, Aftonbladet, a middle-aged man who wrote this in a chronicle when her name came out:
"They chose Petra Mede.
Somewhat of a "bomb".
First of all, no one had counted her in, since she just got to be a mother. No matter how much help she gets behind the curtains, it can obviously give some difficulties to concentrate if her daughter wakes up in the wrong mood"
Ok, so isn´t that a problem that every parent of small children struggles with, no matter if they are babies or 3 years old or 10 years old?? They can ALL wake up in a bad mood and make us go to our jobs with "difficulties to concentrate".
Or maybe this doesn´t apply to fathers? Only mothers?
Doesn´t fathers have concentration problems due to lack of sleep when their little babies are awake?
No, of course not! I guess it´s OUR job, as mothers, to be awake in the nights, to step aside from career steps during the years of having small children and it is our job as a mother, to sit at home, be content over just being at home, while the father is out there, making a career, keeping his salary, his job and also gets to sleep all night long.
Yeah, that´s a perfect world! I really thought we had gotten further in the last 10 years since I got my first son, but apparently we haven´t. Luckily, not ALL men are like this and in this home, we are equals and when Nemo was 6 weeks, we placed him in the car, drove all the way to Finland, went by a boat to get there and slept in a "far away country" and I recorded the demo to a whole album. And I didn´t feel I had difficulties concentrating on the songs. As a matter of fact, I did a better job with the demo recordings than much later on, when I recorded the whole real album.
We took breaks when he wanted food and his FATHER, who is a super good parent took care of him;=)
Since Nemo was born, we have travelled MANY places with him, we´ve been going in a small little caravan car having new hotel rooms EVERY day and he´s even been on a metal cruise boat in the middle of a BIG ocean with lots of metal heads. He´s also been in Los Angeles going in the subway with us and believe me, I´ve been more scared than him during these trips. He still talks every day about our driver in Europe and the big car;=)
But isn´t it EVERY parents own choice to decide upon their lives and how we choose to divide parenting between us? Why all this judging, telling people how to live their lives and why shouldn´t mothers be able to live their dreams, also after giving birth? I know there´s still people who think a newly become mother can´t have a career and it saddens me. And I am sure Petra will have full support to do her job perfectly!
So all I have to say is that: dear Petra Mede - congratulations to the BIG job! I am so happy for you and I also want to give a big hand to the people behind choosing you for the job, who clearly are VERY equal and open minded in this issue;=)
Now- more coffee to wake me up! I wish you all a wonderful day!