Monday, March 03, 2014

And sometimes...

…a Monday can be a really shitty day=(

I feel this day is not the best one. From I woke up everything just have gotten wrong. The pram didn't work so we couldn't go to Nemo´s pre school and me and Mio couldn't take our long morning walk.

I got so angry due to me not being a technical genius when Johan, over the phone, said to me:
- Think LOGICALLY and you´ll be able to fix the tires on the pram… and ME? I was so angry that I could had just tossed the pram straight into the wall! hahaha!!

Now I can laugh about it but if there´s one thing I can´t deal with - it´s when I CAN`T fix things and I´m in need of help! It´s one of my bad personal traits - I get so frustrated and have no patient to keep calm and strategically fix things. Nope - I get totally angry, tosses things around and this is how I´ve been since I was a little girl who tossed things in the wall when I didn´t get things as I wanted them to be...

So today, this morning, it wasn´t Anette 42 years old who acted - but Anette, age 5 who was there trying to fix the pram…

And now the whole day is bad, of course;=)

But when I think of things, it was in a way good we didn´t go out cause then I can:

- clean my book shelf (which I really need to do!)

- bake some nice cookies for my kids (their happy faces will make me feel better;=)

- enjoy being indoors and just chilling (watching Keeping up with the Kardashians)

AND later on I have some nice interviews so I know my mood will get better soon;=)

Now you know one of my not so "nice" sides, tell me about one of yours;=)

Hugs!

27 comments:

Betty Blue said...

Poor you! I know how you feel. I´m just the same, it gets me really frustrated when I can´t make things work the way I want them to. Only that I don´t feel like tossing things around but like hiding in my bed ^^ It´s terrible. I´m 19 and about to become a nurse, I should be able to get along with this, but... Well. You know how it is ^^
Be strong and have fund baking for your kids! :-*

Philippa said...

Aaww *hugs*! Everyone has a shitty day from time to time but it's good to vent and let it out, it's what makes us human. And it's good that you're trying to give it a positive spin by cleaning your bookshelves and baking cookies. I'm sure your boys will appreciate that.

I hope in spite of the shitty start that you'll enjoy the rest of your day :) Big hugs xxx

fstorm said...

Think of the throwing the pram as part of your crossfit training. Haha! :)

I get agitated easily when I'm expected to resolve all the problems for my friends and when I could legitimately use some help or advice no one ever offers! Even worse is that I'm too stubborn to ask, haha.

Have a great week, Nettie!

lynn0407escapistgirl said...

Hi Anette,

I keep my fingers crossed so your day will get better I hope.
I can totally understand you and had to laugh a bit while reading your post because I'm just the same. Almost no patience and if anything doesn't work I throw it right through the room - as I did with my toys when I was a little girl. ;-)
So, Sweety, you are not the only one reacting like this in such situations. ;-)


Big hugs, good luck for the interviews and have a nice day after all,
Steffi <3

Vinga(Kinga Wyspiańska Krawczyk) said...

Oh Anette, I'm the person who frustrated easy too ;)I always had to do everything alone, and as I was receiving something failed rage and cried with anger and nerves ;)ease irritation was me today, and sometimes it boils within me not to throw everything around ^^
I think the rest of the day runs you calmer and relaxed atmosphere ;)
I wish you wonderful (rest) day, Love you so much :*

Hep-Hep Steff said...

geez, you remind me someone (me).... i'm everything but technical, and if i couldn't have something working, well..... it's better not to stay with me, lol. the worst is with my comp, i have to admit... now it's okay, it's still not a new one (i got the one that was my uncle's before, it's five years old) - but the old one was quite a thing. it was 9 years old when i get ridden of it in december, and it was nicknamed prozac. i get so frustrated at him sometimes that there is marks and holes when the old screen banged against the wall! and i could stay upset and angry for quite a time as well...
i hope you will feel better soon :) kisses and love <3

Kay Brady said...

Recentally i have got into this thing where "I WANT IT NOW" thing i don't know why i have started doing it but i just don't have the patience i used to have.

kay

Lisa Asil said...

Awww, Anette :). I know these days, something annoying happens in the beginning and the whole day seems ruined. I hope your good mood started already ;). My bad side? I'm very often quite paranoid about what other people (people I admire and like) think about me...

Eva Fliesaway said...

Oh Anette, I really understand how you feel, I am just the same! When things don't work out the way I want them to I get really angry and frustrated... The embarassing thing is that i usually start yelling at them because I get so angry :D haha, well, everyone has some weird thing in their mind.
Love, eva

Natalie said...

I have the smae bad traits. I get so angry at technology when it doesn't work especially. But i hate not being able to do things for myself and sometimes find it hard to ask others for help.

Thomas C. said...

Hey Anette, I hope your day will indeed get better :)
Mine... Hem I'm very proud and I don't like when I have to get help, for a thing I'm sure I can deal with alone.
Example : this morning, I was on a game with a friend. We were in a very hard dungeon, Nurz Ghashu, since yesterday 3PM. Since yesterday evening we were facing the boss, Thaurlach, but unable to destroy him, we were only trying trying trying and trying again, with no result. This morning we tried again. Unable, as expected, but since we were thinking of a new strategy, I was getting very sure we could deal with him ourself. But my friend told me he could invite another fellow in order to help. And thus I get very cold and harsh, and whilst they were fighting the boss, I told them I could deal alone with its support. I went where the other creature was, and after a hard fight, I've been defeated, because of my pride --' And thus our raid failed, the boss defeated my friend and the other fellow !

Well, still trying to fix that pride of mine, kinda hard^^

Have a good day dear Anette !
Thomas

S.E. Berrow said...

Mine is actually the same as yours, Anette. I'm what my mum calls 'instant coffee'. If I can't obtain or fix something immediately I go absolutely nuts. Especially if it involves technology!!! Xx

Rivka G said...

So you have an angry side? Me too...I get pissed very easily and yell at people. I have a very low patience with people. I prefer being around cats and dogs. They are much nicer and easier to deal with. They don't make me want to slap people(not a good idea)

Pascal said...

Heey Anette and great to read again from you in the blog :). I already missed it!

Sorry that you have or had a bad day. But I have already learned and also experienced sometimes, that when a day starts badly, it sometimes becomes wonderful later on :). So let´s hope this will be the case!

And me too, I´m not a technical expert. I can fix some things I guess (maybe I could have helped you with the pram, who knows :D ), but when it comes to more difficult things, then I have no chance either :).

I had a very bad day in desperation yesterday, but today I´m doing better. For me, it does always feel good when I tell you about negative thoughts. And I have them since some time and they contributed to yesterdays bad experience, so I thought about describing those feelings and what happened to me yesterday to you in a private comment. But then I rather felt no, you are busy anyway and I didn´t want to bother you with it. I think it´s better, because the comment would contain some sad feelings and thoughts of me and that´s not what you need when you have a bad day anyways :). Maybe some time, if you don´t mind, let´s see. But today, I already feel better, so no worries.

Not so nice sides of me? Hmm... there are a few, of course, everyone has that. For example, what I really don´t like about myself, I think I have sometimes an offensive tone when I express a critical opinion on something, but I don´t realise it myself. I don´t use hard swearwords or so, but from time to time I think my words in such a case seem offensive and I don´t like that, because it´s not my intention. Being nice and polite is very important to me. But sometimes I just don´t know how to express my thoughts else and then they can be mistaken. That´s one of my vices, there are more, of course, but hey - who´s perfect anyways? :).

I wish you all the best for the rest of your day and have fun doing the interviews. Lots of hugs to you too :).

subwaytosally18642 said...

Oh Anette, you're adorable <3
Hope the day improved after the bad start :)

When something doesn't work like I want it to, I get really angry, frustrated and I start to cry. At the same time I often ask myself: "Why am I crying? This isn't worth it." and then I try cool myself down. Usually it works.

Tom said...

Hi Anette! :-)

I hope your day has improved since this morning :-)

You asked us what our bad character traits are and my bad character trait is that I'm arrogant :-) Yes folks, even though I believe nobody is perfect, including myself, I have an exaggerated sense of my own importance and abilities :-) I can't help it. It's just the way I'm programmed.

While I believe everyone is entitled to their opinion and beliefs about various things I believe very strongly that mine are superior unless someone agrees with me. Colleagues say I'm very good at work. Though I believe I'm the bees knees and in the past I have overheard the comments that 'Tom thinks he holds it all together' and 10 years ago after an argument in work I overheard her say 'Tom thinks he's God's gift'

I can be a bit judgemental at times too.

Hehehe...I sound like a total utter twat now! :-D

Though I'm not actually :-) I'm a very friendly, warm, caring, thoughtful, person and I have overheard someone in the past describe me as one of the nicest people he's ever met :-) And I just have to say that I 110% agree with him! :-) Opps...there's my arrogance again! :-D

Have a nice evening Anette, my favourite lady Viking! :-)


Karin said...

I get angry and frustrated, when people don' t , and won't get things done... The most simple things ... Some people just wait for someone other to do it, or maybe they think that the issue will solve itself , or they are just so lazy...
Argh !! :)

ralu raly said...

Hello - Anette yes very true facts of what you said in the post .Example of myself i am getting annoyed especially if i don't want to be.My Monday is a good day , but when it's come to things to do it's fails.I feel very bored and tired sometimes not enough energy.:)But if i fall to things become better and better person each day .Enjoy the rest dear.Take care.:)

ralu raly said...

Hello - Anette yes very true facts of what you said in the post .Example of myself i am getting annoyed especially if i don't want to be.My Monday is a good day , but when it's come to things to do it's fails.I feel very bored and tired sometimes not enough energy.:)But if i fall to things become better and better person each day .Enjoy the rest dear.Take care.:)

FAQing Amazing said...

Dear Anette, I'm just like you and I'm not just saying that... I might be even worse. I broke my first laptop because I hit it so hard with my fist. It wasn't working properly and I lost it.

It died inmediatly. So yeah, since then I've been a little more careful with my reactions hehe

Many hugs

AlessandraWilderness said...

ahahha Nettieeeee don't toss things around!!! ;) anyway, it was a question I've always wanted to ask you...whether you get angry sometimes, because you're so sweet, wise etc.. now I know that ahahhah
The important thing is always that we rise from bad days, and enjoy the positive side of everything!
What about me...one of my worst defects is that I plan a lot of things but I can't do all that I expected, and I feel angry with myself, and when I feel sad everything goes bad until negativity fades away...I am not so reactive, I need a little time, I need everyone's calm around me and never scold me because I start to cry, then things go even worst... however, as years go by, this side of my personality has smoothed a little =)

The One Who Should Die said...

I get angry when my parents have promised me one thing but then says, "No, we can do it another day" or when they change plans and take one shop before another.
And I get real angy when I write songs and it take many hours instead of just some minutes.
Also I suffer from different things. I can cry for days, feel horrible around people and so on.
Wish you a good evening :-)

häxa666bpm said...

hi dear nettie!! I also get angry when I cant manage things hehe :P, and yesterday when my boyfriend and I arrived to my faculty (we are in Mexico city), there was a huge conflict so everybody in there had to leave since it was the principal's suggestion, I was so angry because I had some works to give to my teachers, so I made it since friday to enjoy the weekend (I always do that, since I can date my boyfriend only at weekends), but yesterday it was an exception since we had our 13th month anniversary :D. And, so today the faculty is suposed to be closed also, but tomorrow there will be a normal day. And fortunately today I could help my mother to paint some walls in the house since on april there will have a relative's wedding. So now I'm taking a break after the tired painting, hehe.
I hope your day is better now Anette :D. Have a nice night and sleep well.
Hugs from Mexico city

Domenik Sinead said...

hahahaha, oh dear,
i think im like Hulk, im angry all the time, but i know when i show that Bitch-Dark side of me...

But when im really pissed off,
i just cry and took one of my cats, and i start to talk to she/him,
then i start to punch with my fist on the walls or my pillow...

And i try to relax playing piano,
alone in my bedroom, with music in a very high volume, then i fall asleep....

years ago i was like you, dont had patience to fix things, but like no one helped me, well i had no choice to fix them by my own...

Dennis said...

You are not alone, and I feel everyone has certain triggers that can set oneself off! Sounds like the events of your day created the "perfect storm" for you, and you became very frustrated. Happens to all of us! For me it's when something financially unexpected comes up. I work very hard supporting my children, and I get overly frustrated when something gets in the way of my plans! But something in the back of my head always reminds me that things could be worse and it will pass. Sounds like you made a bad situation into a good one and it really is all we can do. We have the love of family, and when you have that, what can't be overcome, right? :-)

Cylene Codogno said...

Anette ... sometimes also discount the rage on some objects, the problem is when it causes an even bigger mess. Once, I had to work for a mason to fix the wall and oura, I was even angrier about having to clean up after throwing a cake on the floor. We all have bad sides and fits of rage, just need to know how far you get for not harming anyone. Kisses and God be with that brighter days are ahead

linnea-maria said...

Ibland blir det bara fel, så är det. Men bra att du såg något positivt av det ändå. Kram